Saying "I Love You"
I work in an office setting. I have my own cubicle, my own "space". But, a cubicle does not provide a whole lot of privacy.
I work with mostly males. It is so interesting to listen to them as they talk to their wives. Some are straight and to the point, and rarely make or receive personal phone calls. Others are on the phone with their wives throughout the day. Although I don't intentionally listen to their conversations (in fact, most of the time I can block them out), occasionally it is common to hear "I Love You" as they end their calls. It shows a small, personal side of the males that I'm surrounded by on an almost daily basis.
I often wonder about the expression "I Love You". Does it need to be said everytime you make a phone call? Everytime you check an appointment with your spouse? Everytime you hang up the phone? I have a coworker that I can hear through the wall. He is a wonderfully nice guy, in fact a little too nice (is that possible?). He is also notorious for talking to his wife on an at least hourly basis, and each time is showered with "I Love You's". Once in a while it tugs at the heart strings, but sometimes it makes me roll my eyes.
I don't know when it's appropriate and when it is not. Some people are completely comfortable with using the expression often. Others are not so comfortable. I had a friend who told me that later in her life she found someone who she truly felt like she loved. She finally got the nerve to tell him. At first it seemed okay, but she said that she ended up telling him way too much, and eventually he told her to back off. She said he sent her mixed signals, however. He wanted to know where she stood in their relationship. He often said, "tell me something profound" and she assumed that meant expressions of love. But she said that she later found that she didn't need to profess her love as often, that actions would have to suffice. And she also said that she had to let her companion know that she needed to occasionally hear his expressions of love and that he needed to learn to communicate to her because it was so important to her. Apparently it has been a learning experience for both, and one they are still working on.
I miss the opportunity to tell my Mom that I love her. However, I know that wherever she is, she knows.
I work in an office setting. I have my own cubicle, my own "space". But, a cubicle does not provide a whole lot of privacy.
I work with mostly males. It is so interesting to listen to them as they talk to their wives. Some are straight and to the point, and rarely make or receive personal phone calls. Others are on the phone with their wives throughout the day. Although I don't intentionally listen to their conversations (in fact, most of the time I can block them out), occasionally it is common to hear "I Love You" as they end their calls. It shows a small, personal side of the males that I'm surrounded by on an almost daily basis.
I often wonder about the expression "I Love You". Does it need to be said everytime you make a phone call? Everytime you check an appointment with your spouse? Everytime you hang up the phone? I have a coworker that I can hear through the wall. He is a wonderfully nice guy, in fact a little too nice (is that possible?). He is also notorious for talking to his wife on an at least hourly basis, and each time is showered with "I Love You's". Once in a while it tugs at the heart strings, but sometimes it makes me roll my eyes.
I don't know when it's appropriate and when it is not. Some people are completely comfortable with using the expression often. Others are not so comfortable. I had a friend who told me that later in her life she found someone who she truly felt like she loved. She finally got the nerve to tell him. At first it seemed okay, but she said that she ended up telling him way too much, and eventually he told her to back off. She said he sent her mixed signals, however. He wanted to know where she stood in their relationship. He often said, "tell me something profound" and she assumed that meant expressions of love. But she said that she later found that she didn't need to profess her love as often, that actions would have to suffice. And she also said that she had to let her companion know that she needed to occasionally hear his expressions of love and that he needed to learn to communicate to her because it was so important to her. Apparently it has been a learning experience for both, and one they are still working on.
I miss the opportunity to tell my Mom that I love her. However, I know that wherever she is, she knows.
posted by Susan | 10:16 AM
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